This probably won't help you, but I have to brag on my husband. He was absolutely great.

Having a supportive spouse has to be the best help. Many years ago, when our twins were born my husband was great. Nothing cooked for supper? no problem, he'd throw something together. Our daughter need some attention? She could go to the game with him (he was a teacher and had to work some ballgames).Out of diapers, again (pre-disposable diapers), he could, and did, wash them for me. For the first couple of months I was force-feeding the babies, every three hours. I didn't have time for anything else. My husband did it all for me. Once they were doing better, he watched them so I could go to town, just to go to town.

When our daughter was born my mom came and stayed with me. Too bad she wasn't much help. Her going home allowed me to relax and enjoy my baby.